Sometimes making changes comes with a price tag. Some of my hardest losses were long term friendships.
When I started changing, I had some long term friend that was not accepting of who I was becoming, the real me.
At the beginning of this part of my journey, it was hard learning to be me. Being me met letting go of people I loved dearly.
I had a hard time to understand how you could be such good friends for such a long time with someone, then suddenly everything falls apart, and you are either being attacked or pushed away. I can’t tell you how many times I asked myself out loud, “Are you willing to let go?”
When I started examining the situations honestly what I saw was the friendships were based on what I believed at the time. My overall belief system shaped my life and connected me to others that believed the same or similar.
As soon as my overall belief system started to change, I no longer fit in, there was no hope for acceptance and staying friends in a different capacity, that was the hard part for me.
After a while, I came to appreciate the losses and to understand the most important relationship I can have is with myself.